My Start to 2012

January 23, 2012 at 4:24 pm (dating, life) (, , , , )

My start to 2012 was a bit of a roller coaster, which is why I haven’t posted in a while. After midnight on new years eve, I started talking with that guy I met at the bar on Christmas day. He told me about himself and there was lots of flirting. Then at 4am, yes I said 4am, the bar was closing. This guy offered to take me home. I being a bit intoxicated didn’t tell my older brother and sis-in-law that I had a ride home. I thought they were also leaving. The guy drove me home and we sat in my parents’ driveway making out, which is all that happened. We were stopped by my brother knocking on the window. He was worried about me. With that I got out of the car and headed into my parents’ house. My dad was pretty upset that no one can find me. but by morning all was forgiven. I am still in touch with that guy and hopefully will see him when I go back home.

Then a couple of weeks ago, some of my clothes were stolen from the laundry room. I think I know who did it but I can’t prove it. Still upset about it but that is nothing compared to what happened a couple days later, I got a call from my mom saying my uncle passed away suddenly. It was sudden as he was very healthy. I had just chatted with him the week earlier about my upcoming trip to Las Vegas for my birthday. I was going to spend the last day hanging with him and my cousins. We were both very excited about it. I was in shock when my mom told me the news, I didn’t cry because I didn’t want to believe it was true. He was a great man and will be dearly missed. We know though that he is making his way back to my aunt who passed away five years ago.

Last week my mom called me and told me that my oldest brother was taken to the hospital. They thought it was a heart attack but after testing they ruled that out. He does have something in his neck and back that is hereditary and they doctors are trying to talk him into back surgery. My brother is now back home which is great news.

Then my little brother got news that his ex, my nephew’s mother, went crazy at the hospital. It always worries us when this happens but everything is okay and my nephew is safe.

It has been a lot to handle but I am making it through and have some great friends.


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Such a Great Holiday!

January 4, 2012 at 9:26 pm (life) (, , , , , , )

The new year is starting out with a bang for a lot of people, including myself. For me it is mostly because I had such a great holiday week.

In November, my dad called me to say that as mine and my mom’s Christmas present he was paying for my plane ticket back home for the holidays. Tickets were not cheap and I just couldn’t pay for it myself so I was very excited. We decided to keep it a surprise from the rest of the family. Which we did manage to do but my dad did tell my uncle the week before I got there, it must have been during happy hour.

The night before I left JS and I celebrated the holidays. It was a low-key night of staying in with Chinese food, gifts and watching movies. It was also the second time we have hung out since October when he told me we should just be friends. It was a good night.

I flew out on Christmas Eve and headed for the Midwest. My parents and my 9-year-old nephew came to the airport to pick me up. My nephew was surprised as he also didn’t know I was coming. We made our way to my older brother’s house for our family celebration. When we got there my younger brother was so excited to see me he was crying. Everyone was so shocked and excited to see me there especially since I threw them off the track the day before saying I would Skype with them again this year. The day was filled with kids, great food and my amazing family.

Christmas Day my parents and I headed to the bar to watch the Packer game. While we were there, I met someone who I saw again on New Years Eve (more about that later). New Years Eve my brothers and I went out with my parents, no little kids allowed. It was a great night and my parents were so happy to have their children together and go out with them.

More about the guy I met while back home in the next post…

Hope everyone had a great holiday!

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Today is…

February 15, 2011 at 3:16 am (dating, life) (, , , , , , , )

…the day before my Birthday.

I don’t even think of it as Valentine’s Day because well it is the day before my birthday and I have never really gotten anything special for Valentine’s Day. Even though a few years ago I was dating someone around this time, we were fighting already, should have been the first sign that one wouldn’t have worked.

You would think that since I have been dating JS I would be excited about VDay this year, but I am not.  At the beginning of the month I started counting down to my day and even mentioned something to JS.  He asked if I updated my Amazon wish list, so I was thinking I might be getting something and that he was planning something.

Then last week, I let him know I wanted to do something with him for my birthday and he said we would figure something out. Then we planned a date for this past Friday and since he hurt himself pretty bad the week before he suggested movies and dinner in. We decided to rent some movies and get burgers and he spent the night. It was a great night and we had lots of fun. We both went to bed smiling and woke up the same way. When I walked him to his car I suggested we do something Monday night. I wasn’t suggesting we celebrate Valentine’s Day but more going out for my birthday, and he said maybe. He wished me an early Happy Birthday and then was off. Later in the day as we were texting I suggested we go to a movie on Monday, he said something about working on his writing project so I asked when are we going to celebrate my birthday.

Then there was nothing until this morning, when he said he wasn’t planning on seeing me on my actual birthday and that he kinda thought Friday would cover that and that this week is pretty busy for him. The one justification is that I am going to a taping of one of my favorite tv shows on my actual birthday and since he works he wouldn’t be able to go. But the way he said he “kinda thought Friday would cover that”, hurt. So I responded by saying, “I know that my actual birthday I am going to the taping, I just thought another day we could go to a movie. I didn’t realize that was our celebration, I did have fun though, thank you.” He said the taping should be fun and I said yeah I am going with a friend so it should be fun.

Then there was nothing again. For me the whole thing hurt because we didn’t do anything that was different from what we usually do. I felt like an idiot because of what I did for his birthday. Doing something for people you do because you want to, so I didn’t expect anything in return but even just going out even if it is us going out to a movie a day or two after.

I talked to a couple of guy friends and even one of my girlfriends and they all said that most guys suck at the birthday and holiday thing. I can see where they are coming from because JS’s bday is on a major holiday and he doesn’t get overly excited about it.

Honestly I don’t know what to think. Was there a miscommunication or is it that to him birthdays are no big deal? Am I wrong for feeling a little hurt?

(A friend of mine posted this video today on their Facebook. Seemed fitting to post in this post after what happened and how I am feeling.)

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First sleepover…

January 1, 2011 at 9:53 pm (dating) (, , , , , , , , , , )

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…well sort of.

Since the man was sick on Monday we planned a date for Thursday night. In planning our date, I suggested a sleepover and he said it would be a good idea. I was excited after three months of dating we were having our first sleepover. (As I have said before we are taking things very slow. )

He was bringing over stuff to make pancakes for dinner (yes we love breakfast for dinner), the DVDs I got him for his birthday and Christmas, as well as my Christmas gifts. When he showed up he had boxes and his overnight bag. He started making the pancakes and as we were eating he handed me my presents and I loved them all. After dinner we cuddled on the bed and watched the DVDs. As the night went on we got intimate with each other and were having a great night.

Then it got late and we figured we should get some sleep. He had to take out his contacts and when looking for his contact stuff and glasses he realized he left them at home. Since he can’t see without either he had to go home. Granted we did get to spend a lot of time together, I just was a little down. I was looking forward to waking up next to him. He did apologize and I could tell he felt bad. He even said he was looking forward to the morning as well. As he was leaving he left the stuff to make the pancakes as well as some mail he brought over. When he got home he texted me and I let him know that he left his stuff here. He said he would be back in the near future to get them. We texted a bit the next morning and wished each other happy new year.

No we did not spend the holiday together. A couple of days before I had suggested we do something for New Years Eve but he told me he was going to be going to various friends’ houses and we didn’t talk about it again.

Though I was a little down about him having to leave the night of our sleepover and not spending the new years together, it confirmed even more that I need to take things slow with this one. Not sure what will happen in the new year but I have a feeling it will be good.

Hope everyone had a great holiday!

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Am I setting myself up…

December 27, 2010 at 9:00 am (dating, life) (, , , , , , )

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…for heartbreak?

I was talking to my dad on Christmas and he asked about the guy and how he is doing. I said he is fine and spending the day celebrating with his friends. My dad thought it was weird that he hadn’t asked me to join him and his friends. He also said that it seems that this guy might not think I am good enough to meet his friends.

But when I talked to one of my really good guy friends he said, “sounds like he might have commitment issues and you need to take things very, very slow with him”. This could be very true because when the man and I briefly talked about past relationships he said that he has only had short term relationships and one girl even lost interest. It is possible this could be issue? One of my clients is a relationship coach and she told me to say to him, “When you are ready and feel the time is right, I would like to meet your friends” and then see what his reaction is or what he says and then just leave it at that.

Also it is the holidays and spending the holidays with someone you are dating is a big step and he might be ready for that quite yet. I did ask him what he is doing for new years and he said he didn’t know and no one has brought it up.

He did thank me for the birthday wishes I sent him and wished me a Merry Christmas.

I know my dad is just worried about me. I think with this guy I just have to let things progress naturally and I like taking things slow and he might have to take things a lil slower.

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Holidays and Dating

December 24, 2010 at 9:29 pm (dating, life) (, , , , , , , , , , , )

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It is Christmas Eve and I am sitting at home doing a Redbox movie marathon and ION television is doing a Criminal Minds marathon starting at 3pm. (Spending the afternoon with my chocolate boyfriend Shemar Moore. He came in all the time where I used to work and is the nicest guy.)

No I am not spending the holidays with the new man. I didn’t really force the issue since he seems like someone who like me needs to take things slow. Next week we will have been dating three months and at times it has been hard for me to get used to his schedule and him just wanting to relax at home by himself. My mom said “You are used to M’s schedule so why aren’t you okay with the man’s schedule”. My response to her was, “That is because I know nothing more is going to happen with M, this new man there is a possibility of something more”. This past Monday we celebrated his birthday (his birthday is Christmas day). I went all out baking a cake, getting his presents and also the champagne he wanted. I gave him his gifts and since they were a popular tv show we popped them into the DVD player and enjoyed the evening. And again like the week before things were even more passionate than they had been before. Things were different in a good way and I had a feeling it was the night we would hit a home run and we did. It was sort of like the episode of Sex and the City when Carrie and Berger did it for the first time. After though he sat up, asked for one of the chocolate chip cookies I made and had me sit in front of him and put his arms around me and pulled me close to him. It was a very good night despite the lil bit of awkwardness.

We had talked about possibly doing something last night but late in the afternoon he told me he had been sleeping in all day and wanted to relax before his two days of socializing. I was a lil upset because I was looking forward to seeing him but then he sent me a message saying some items from my Amazon wish list would be coming Monday. Who knows maybe he felt bad that he hadn’t gotten me anything yet and didn’t want to upset me. I am trying very hard to not look at what he bought me and patiently waiting for Monday to come.

Even though I am not doing anything today, my family will be calling me later while they celebrate the holiday at my older brother’s house. Since my little brother won’t be getting my nephew until later tonight they will be celebrating tomorrow with my parents and will be calling me and hopefully through Skype. I am also going to a friend’s house tomorrow for dinner. So I won’t be totally alone for the holiday. I am upset though that the Christmas Football game will be on the NFL Network and that CBS won’t be showing my Patriots game on Sunday.

Hope everyone has a great holiday!

One of my favorite holiday songs

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