The Scare, Excitement and Disappointment

March 26, 2012 at 4:20 pm (dating, life) (, , , , , )

I realize that I haven’t posted since my birthday last month and a few things have happened since then.

School has been busy, my screenwriting class is exciting and we had to turn in our short outline/pitch for our screenplay idea. The idea is visually forming in my head which makes it exciting. I also met someone and we had two dates, even though after each one I was wondering if he liked me or not. I could be honest with him and found out he is just very shy.

Then the big scare happened. I was coming back from school and a quick run to Target and my chest started to hurt. I though maybe it was from carrying my backpack and shopping back or even heartburn. I spent the night relaxing and even had a healthy salad for dinner. The pain was not lessening at all and spread into my right armpit and neck. Now I was getting worried. I called the on-call nurse and she recommended I call 911. The paramedics came, ran some tests and asked if I wanted to go to the hospital. I decided it is better to be safe than sorry. I went in, they did lab work and x-rays but couldn’t find anything. I also went in for the fun treadmill stress test and everything there was good. Doctor has said everything was fine and just might have been stress or exhaustion.

I did get to see M before he possibly leaves for the next nine months. It was good to see him after the big scare because it made me feel even better.

Then that guy I went on two dates with, cancelled on me 45 minutes before we were supposed to meet up for our third date. He told me he just wasn’t feeling it and apologized. I made sure to tell him it was pretty crappy to cancel on me with such short notice and he should have said something sooner. He said he just wanted friendship. But I haven’t talked to him since and have no plans to.

The even bigger news is I will be having a new website coming soon. My graphic designer just finished my logo and it looks great.  Let me know what you think!

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The Good, The Bad and The Interesting

January 31, 2012 at 5:24 pm (dating) (, , , , )

When I started this blog it was not long after a bad relationship. The person had tore me down lower than I ever thought possible. Since then I have been on good dates and some really bad dates.

A couple of weeks ago I had a bad, an interesting and a good date. Two of the dates are guys I started talking to from Plentyoffish.com and the other was JS.

The first date was bad. The guy got to the outdoor mall we were meeting at a few minutes before I got there. When I arrived he hadn’t figured out a restaurant for us to go to. He did bring me purple lilies which was sweet and I told him. We decided on The Cheesecake Factory and the food was good. The conversation was okay. I could tell he was a bit nervous and well I wasn’t really that interested in him. After dinner we walked to our next stop, mini golf. As we were walking there he told me that he has been on the site for six months and I am the first who has agreed to go out with him. I started to feel a little bad for him but he kept saying it over and over and thanking me. I was getting turned off because he didn’t stop talking about it. We played mini golf and arcade games. Then on the way to my bus stop (yes I’m still without a car), he was saying again about how happy he was I agreed to go out with him. When I found out the bus I wanted to take was not leaving for another 15 minutes he said, “Good more precious time to spend with you”.  It was a just a little much for me after one date. Days later I sent him a message saying with everything going on with my family I am not up for dating.

The second date of the week was POF guy number two, the interesting date. We met up at a bar/restaurant. We sat at the bar, ordered beer and food and talked. He was a nice guy, good looking and likes sports. Already things were going good until the check came. He told the bartender to run the card he gave her when we sat down. She ran it and then asked him if he had a different card. He was embarrased and started to check his bank balance on his phone. After scrolling through his phone he showed me that he didn’t have enough to pay the bill. REALLY? How do you not know how much money you have in your account? He then said he remembered he bought gas earlier. Again REALLY? So then we had to split the check but he insisted on paying the tip. I was not happy. He kept apologizing and telling me he wants to make it up to me. We walked around a bit and then there was the kiss. It wasn’t one of those where the moment was there and it happened. It was us walking next to each other, we stopped and he pulled me towards him. It was a little awkward. I let him drive me home and we kissed again. Still a little awkward.

The third date was dinner and a movie with JS. So I guess it isn’t really wasn’t a date since JS and I are just friends, but it was the best one of the week. And when he drove me home, he gave me a hug and a quick kiss on the lips. The kiss threw me off because we haven’t even been close to doing that in months.

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No I Don’t Want to be Your Mistress

December 15, 2011 at 9:55 am (dating) (, , , , , , )

The final paper for my class has turned out to be a little tougher than I originally thought it would be. So I took another break last night to check my Plenty of Fish messages. There were a few from a couple of guys I had already been exchanging messages with. Then there was a new one, from a 43-year-old guy with no picture on his profile. I didn’t think this was a red flag, so I read the message from him. He started by giving me a physical description of himself, where he lives, what he does for a living and then says, “Married but no sex life (:”. The rest of the message is telling me he likes curvey (that is how he spelled it) girls and thinks I look hot in one of my pictures.

I then was curious what his profile said. The longest relationship he has been in was over 5 years, well obviously he is married. He lists his marital status as single and he has children. He also says that he wants to make a million dollars a year, loves to spoil people and loves giving massages. His physical description on his profile says he is caucasian but in the email he sent me he said he is mediterranean looking. I am open to dating other races but don’t lie about what you are. Be proud of who you are.

His profile is filled with lies. So I confronted him about it. I sent him a message saying I was confused because in his email he told me he is married but his profile says he is single and looking for a relationship. I also told him it sounds like he is just looking for fling.

His response, “I want to get to know somebody sexy, I am married and looking for somebody exciting”.

I sent him a message saying I think he is on the wrong site if he is looking for someone on the side. I also told him I am not interested in being someone’s mistress. I wished him luck in his search.

This guy really needs to be on Ashley Madison if he is looking for an affair. Doesn’t he realize he probably won’t find what he is looking for on a dating site. Who knows maybe he will find someone on POF that will indulge him. I won’t be that person.

The other OMG moment on POF is when I saw my psycho ex as someone they recommend I chat with. I looked at his profile to see if he was still trying to lure women in by telling them he is a doctor. He doesn’t come right out and say it but as his profession he lists, Business/Medical. Oh I am sure he is still telling girls he was an OB/GYN.

Back to studying for my final tonight!

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Your Attempt at Flattery Didn’t Work

December 13, 2011 at 9:50 am (dating) (, , , , )

I have been deep into doing my final paper and studying for my final. I decided to take a break and check out my Plenty of Fish action. I emailed a couple of good-looking guys and one of them, a 29-year-old sent me a chat request. Normally I don’t like younger guys but I am being more open to it. Well this guy just turned me off from any younger guy.

After saying hi he asked what I like. When I asked him to clarify he asked if I like to make out. SERIOUSLY?? He didn’t even try to have any small talk with me, it was right away to the make out. I told him it seems like he is looking for just a hookup. He said, “I am looking for a best friend with benefit”. Sorry buddy but yes you are looking for a fuck buddy. Then I told him I am over friends with benefits. Then he said and I quote, “You haven’t had one like me. And I like older friends with benefits”.

Two things wrong with what he said. How does he know I haven’t had one like him? And I do I know he would even be worth my time? I am guessing if he has to tell me that he is really good, he probably isn’t. My psycho ex told me the same thing. And he wasn’t that great. (Why did I stay with him so long?) His next mistake was saying he likes older friends with benefits. Yes he is younger by six years but him saying that just didn’t sit right with me. He didn’t just say it once, he said it three times. I get it you like older women but when I say I am over having just friends with benefits, you aren’t making things better by reminding me that I am older. His attempt to tell me he likes older women didn’t work as he had planned.

Then when I closed the chat window he requested to chat with me again. I denied his request. He obviously didn’t catch on that I wasn’t going to be his ‘best friend with benefits’.

And people wonder why I am over dating.

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Done with Internet Dating

April 26, 2011 at 1:52 am (dating, life) (, , , , )

After everything going on in the past month, the car dying, JS telling me we are just friends with benefit and The EX visiting, I decided to get back into internet dating. Don’t get me wrong, the visit with The EX was good. It really gave me the kick in the butt I needed for my business.  I also have been hanging out with JS from time to time, enjoying the conversation and well the company is good too.

In thinking about everything going on  I  decided to get back on Chemistry.com. This was a big mistake. Chemistry has been matching me with guys who are not looking for a 34 year old, curvy, divorced white girl who wants kids. I seriously got matched with guys who are looking for a girl no older than 25, some that are looking for an Asian or African-American woman, a woman that has never been married and girl who is slender. They have also been matching me with guys who have kids but don’t want to have more kids. I’m not really sure what Chemistry is looking at when they say they have matched me with a new member, because I don’t seem to be getting matched with anyone that is even looking for a girl like me. The whole process has gotten me even more frustrated with dating and I am over online dating.

Not sure if Chemistry.com would even be reading my blog, but seriously you need to look closer when matching people.

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Oh Chemistry.com

February 11, 2009 at 12:06 am (Uncategorized) (, , , , )

I have been on Chemistry.com for a little while now. I have had 2 short-lived relationships with guys I have met on there. One of them is still a friend of mine. Just wasn’t the right time for us.

So Chemistry has been sending me potential matches and some are good and some well I don’t think Chemistry read what I was looking for to clearly. Some of the guys though they have children are not looking to have more. In my profile it clearly states that I want to have children. I don’t mind being with a single dad but I also want to have one of my own.

Then there are a couple that peak my interest and they decide to archive me (meaning not interested) and you put a reason why you chose that. A few of the guys have either said “Taking a break from dating” and “Pursuing another relationship”. Okay my question is if you are pursuing another relationship, WHY ARE YOU CHECKING YOUR DATING PROFILE? Shouldn’t you be focusing on the woman you are with and not trying to find someone else.

And if you are taking a break why are you looking. I can maybe understand, hoping you might find someone that will peak your interest, but shouldn’t you just not respond? I took a break from dating for a bit and I didn’t sign into my dating profile at all. I just stopped looking.

Then there are guys who put “No reason”. At least put “Not a good fit”, or “Physical distance to great” (yes they do send me matches that live 2 hours away), at least put some reason.

They have also sent me guys that are looking for someone that is athletic or slender. Okay in my profile I clearly state that I am curvy and full-figured. I don’t lie about it, nor do I hide it. But why would guys that are looking for someone skinny want to date someone that is full-figured? And usually those are the guys I am attracted to. They have the right look and seem really interesting. When I say I have interest in them, they respond, “Not interested”. Yeah real great for the self-esteem.

For now I keep pursuing to see if someone peaks my interest and wants to get to know me.

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